Marc Ostrofsky, the author of “Get Rich Click” tells of a conversation with his wife -
“Honey, if I had no money, would you still love me?”
“Oh, yes, darling, of course I’d still love you! … I’d miss you, but I’d still love you!”
I know one shouldn’t generalise and make it a hard-and-fast rule that it’s a husband’s job to be the primary breadwinner. However, throughout history there seems to be a general consensus that a woman needs the security of a man who is able to provide for the basic needs of the family unit.
A woman’s need for financial security has been the subject matter of countless jokes and cartoons, and men need to sit up and take notice – to realise that if they want their marriage to be affair-proof, this aspect of the relationship needs their focused attention.
Of course there is a tendency for men to become workaholics, and to be taken completely by surprise when their wives and children express their dissatisfaction with the relationship – “but I’ve given you everything you’ve ever wanted!”.
It’s a difficult balancing act. We are told to provide generously for our families’ needs, and at the same time to give each individual our love, care, attention and support. We’ll discuss this further in subsequent articles and try to provide some practical guidelines to benefit your family’s harmony while providing for their material needs as well.
